WE’RE IN IT TOGETHER
I have always said that the people with which I work are “normal people who have encountered bumps in the road of life,” or some such analogy. I also have a child’s drawing that shows a family fishing in a boat (Sloop John B as a matter of fact) and I have it framed as a representation that “we’re all in the same boat.” The meaning behind that for me is that my journey and that of my clients’ is the same—we take different paths at times, are at different places on the paths, yet the experience of journeying through the challenges of life is known to every one of us. Psychotherapists and other counselors are merely helpers who know a bit and understand more of the journey and the process, and thus, can help others move along the path more effectively. The key is for the helper to manage her own troubles successfully, in order not to get tripped up by them.
Similarly, physicians and nurses get ill at times, and need care, and only if they choose not to get help or to deny their medical needs does the illness get in the way of helping their patients. Attending to oneself is essential for any helper to continue to be effective. Finding my way through the briars, pitfalls and thunderstorms of life, and continuing to use the knowledge gained to help others on the journey inspired this website and blog. I hope it will be helpful.