“When we are no longer able to change a situation…we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl
A wise mentor of mine, Sister Mary Margaret Camalo, told me that as we grow older the challenge is to integrate all the experiences of our lives and find acceptance and make peace with them. In doing so, we gain integrity. Our lives will be enriched and we become more evolved as humans. If we struggle against acceptance and integration of the hurt, loss, regret, heartbreak and resentment, we become bitter. It is vital transformative work. I came face to face with this challenge in a time of personal trials.
In an 8-month period, I quit a job, ended a marriage, became caregiver to my dying mother, and was treated for breast cancer.
Those trials challenged me (again) to experience the need to let go of control, have faith and trust, ask for support, live in the moment, and use all the resources available, outside of me AND inside myself. That time of shock, anguish, bewilderment and loss brought an opportunity for transformation.
Now I have developed a framework to pass on the principles I learned that allowed me to grow stronger rather than grow bitter. There are four essential building blocks which are: The 4 Rs: Relationship, Resilience, Respite and Renewal. These tools can help transform the experience of pain and change it into one of growth and enrichment.
This site is intended to be a resource for persons going through transitions, or wanting more from your life. It may be that you are:
- a caregiver to a loved one
- experiencing burnout
- changing careers
- struggling in a relationship
- new in town
- ending a marriage
- afraid for a family member who is making poor choices
- experiencing health problems or just heard a frightening diagnosis
- searching for more out of your life
- like all humans, groping your way through developmental/life stage changes
Using my own experiences in combination with my professional knowledge and skills, this site will offer information, links, insights and inspiration. Welcome!