Roll with it

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Roll with it

This is the time of year that every­one (espe­cially in north­ern climes like Min­nesota, I think) starts to pack in a lot of sum­mer­time activ­i­ties, know­ing that fall is about to descend. And, it is prep time for stu­dents and teach­ers return­ing to school. I am one of those again; this time I’m teach­ing a class in the Social Work grad­u­ate pro­gram at SCSU; pro­vid­ing instruc­tion in the fun­da­men­tal skills needed to be a social worker.

I am eager to dig into this class and learn the process of teach­ing the the­ory and skills of my pro­fes­sion. Inter­est­ingly, the text­book to be used is the same one I had when I started my MSW pro­gram at Louisiana State Uni­ver­sity in 1987. That was Edi­tion 2, and now I will use Edi­tion 9. Wow! Has it really been that long? I love the syn­chronic­ity of this and can see that it is THE book, and has evolved appro­pri­ately to be cur­rent and cut­ting edge.

I feel that have evolved in a sim­i­lar way – chang­ing and adapt­ing to stay up-​to-​date and fresh through the years of hon­ing my craft and help­ing oth­ers who are in the begin­ning stages of their careers.

This is another aspect of resilience, I think; adapt­ing and grow­ing through chal­lenges, upheavals, changes. Becom­ing stronger and remain­ing fit to per­form nec­es­sary tasks and ful­fill new roles.

It can be a very hum­bling process. Many times through the years I have seen a “new” tech­nique or approach intro­duced and embraced, and real­ize I knew some­thing very sim­i­lar to that YEARS ago, and had not really incor­po­rated it. I often have a sense of “I knew that once! Why haven’t I been doing it?” or “Damn, I could have writ­ten that book!” It is dis­con­cert­ing but I have come to real­ize it is an out­come of liv­ing a lot of years and being in a career for 30+ years. I also know that I can’t do it all, nor does it make what I have done less valid.

That’s where “roll with it” comes in. Here’s a definition:

to adjust to dif­fi­cult events as they hap­pen – roll with it.”

Ety­mol­ogy: based on box­ing, from the lit­eral mean­ing roll with the punches (step back or to one side as you are being hit), so that you do not receive the full force of the attack.
Cam­bridge Dic­tio­nary of Amer­i­can Idioms Copy­right © Cam­bridge Uni­ver­sity Press 2003. Repro­duced with permission.

We need to adjust, be flex­i­ble, acco­mo­date and some­times, in order not to get knocked down, we need to take the punch and move with it. The abil­ity to bend and be tough are essen­tial skills in this world. See­ing our imper­fec­tions, errors, short­com­ings, and misses is part of rolling with it. Under­stand­ing our fal­li­bil­ity but not let­ting it under­mine our self-​confidence and sense of pur­pose can be dif­fi­cult, but when we do it we can suc­cess­fully move for­ward and attain more wis­dom. Own­ing those truths about our­selves improves our resilience and enhances our abil­ity to accept things, peo­ple, events, that we can­not change, and helps us gain tol­er­ance of oth­ers, as well.

This is the time of year that everyone (especially in northern climes like Minnesota, I think) starts to pack in a lot of summertime activities, knowing that fall is about to descend. And, it is prep time for students and teachers returning to school. I am one of those again; this time I’m teaching a class in the Social Work graduate program at SCSU; providing instruction in the fundamental skills needed to be a social worker.

I am eager to dig into this class and learn the process of teaching the theory and skills of my profession. Interestingly, the textbook to be used is the same one I had when I started my MSW program at Louisiana State University in 1987. That was Edition 2, and now I will use Edition 9. Wow! Has it really been that long? I love the synchronicity of this and can see that it is THE book, and has evolved appropriately to be current and cutting edge.

I feel that I have evolved in a similar way–changing and adapting to stay up-to-date and fresh through the years of honing my craft and helping others who are in the beginning stages of their careers.

This is another aspect of resilience, I think; adapting and growing through challenges, upheavals, changes. Becoming stronger and remaining fit to perform necessary tasks and fulfill new roles.

It can be a very humbling process. Many times through the years I have seen a “new” technique or approach introduced and embraced, and realize I knew something very similar to that YEARS ago, and had not really incorporated it. I often have a sense of “I knew that once! Why haven’t I been doing it?” or “Damn, I could have written that book!” It is disconcerting but I have come to realize it is an outcome of living a lot of years and being in a career for 30+ years. I also know that I can’t do it all, nor does it make what I have done less valid.

That’s where “roll with it” comes in. Here’s a definition:

“to adjust to difficult events as they happen–roll with it.”

Etymology: based on boxing, from the literal meaning roll with the punches (step back or to one side as you are being hit), so that you do not receive the full force of the attack.
Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms Copyright © Cambridge University Press 2003. Reproduced with permission.

We need to adjust, be flexible, accomodate and sometimes, in order not to get knocked down, we need to take the punch and move with it. The ability to bend and be tough are essential skills in this world. Seeing our imperfections, errors, shortcomings, and misses is part of rolling with it. Understanding our fallibility but not letting it undermine our self-confidence and sense of purpose can be difficult, but when we do it we can successfully move forward and attain more wisdom. Owning those truths about ourselves improves our resilience and enhances our ability to accept things, people, events, that we cannot change, and helps us gain tolerance of others, as well.

 

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